Texan Magazine
By Bill Dante
On Valentine’s Day we all know that a grand gesture of love is a bold, intentional act, demonstrating deep affection and commitment, going beyond the everyday to create a memorable, heartfelt experience.
While grand gestures are special, consistent small acts of love, thoughtfulness, and empathy build lasting relationships.
It’s understandable that we all get caught up in the day to day pressures of life. Of course you can come up with that big, special trip to Europe or a road trip to another state but that’s not what this article is about. It’s about reminding you that little, everyday things mean a lot. Whether you’re longtime or newly married, or have a very special someone in your life, I just wanted to remind you of a few small, everyday actions that don’t require a lot of money or effort, but have a big impact on your relationship in the long run.
The little things can create joy, connection, and overall well-being, far more than grand displays, and they are truly the essence of a rich life. Here are some suggestions:
Leave surprise notes: Hide a “thinking of you” note on the mirror or in the car for your loved one to see.
Bring them a treat: Pick up their favorite coffee, a small snack they like, or something they mentioned they liked.
Do a thoughtful chore: Fill their car with gas, maybe get it washed too, do the dishes, or take care of a task they usually handle to lighten their load.
Run a warm bath: Prepare a relaxing bath with candles and bath products.
Give a spontaneous compliment: Tell them something you admire about them, or compliment something they are doing.
Write a handwritten letter: A heartfelt letter is a classic gesture that can be cherished forever.
Show public affection: Hold their hand, put your arm around them, or give a hug for no reason.
Say “I love you,”: Say it often, and tell them why you are lucky to have them.
Breakfast In Bed: Surprise them on a weekend morning. If you don’t cook, run out and bring back some breakfast tacos.
Flowers: Bring home flowers “just because,” not just for special occasions. (Check out the flowers at places like Walmart, Costco, or Trader Joe’s.) They’re beautiful AND affordable.
Thoughtful gifts: Buy them something small that you know they need or have been wanting, like their favorite tea, a new book, or a bath bomb.
Quality Time: Schedule regular, uninterrupted quality time together, like a walk, a picnic, or a conversation without phones or devices.
Yes, Valentine’s Day is a special day but it can be a nightmare getting a table. Maybe dine out the night before and not get stuck with the fixed menu prices.
But as you leave the house, hand your significant other a glass of champagne, or sparkling wine. Then toast to their beauty or handsomeness, and mention how lucky you are to be with them.
Then open the car door!
I once read that being considerate and taking care of the little gestures is called wife maintenance. I try to do those things, often. No one is perfect, and we all mess up once in a while, but a little thoughtfulness, kindness and consideration goes a long way, because the little things in life really do mean a lot!
Someone once said, “Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”
